Where Motivation Goes To Die. Are You Killing Your Own Motivation?
It's not always a comforting thought or process to think we may be responsible for losing our motivation. After all, it is easy to blame someone else. It is easy to blame work or the weather. However, that lack of accountability to ourselves is only a short term fix. It may give you that needed validation at the moment but does it actually solve the problem or fulfill your desire? Likely not, the next day you find yourself back at the starting point. Entering this never ending loop of blame, regret or guilt. Break the cycle and ask yourself if you are killing your vibe. Let's break down some of the top places Motivation Goes To Die.
1. Not Having A Goal.
A plan with no focus is a plan without a goal. You don't need to know the road you will take. You don't need to have any expectations of how the goal will play. However, without a goal there will be no start. Focus in on what you want. The plan will follow.
2. You Don't Know Your Why.
If you can't remember why you started. It will be hard to stay focused when you hit a set back. Understanding our drive is a key into continuing our motivation. When writing you goal, include your why. This allows you to tap into the emotional connection to your goal.
3. Pursuing Perfection.
There is no such thing. You may be the juiciest peach but there will always be someone you doesn't like peaches. Remove your expectations of yourself and let the results come. There is always more we can improve. This can be physically, mentally and emotionally. Life comes with it's challenges, therefore enjoy the crazy that is imperfectly yours.
Spending time on social media comparing yourself to others is a sure way to kill your motivation. Losing yourself in the feed of the rich and famous or the incredibly fit. The perfect mom. Remember, we just said nothing is perfect. We don't know their struggle. Companies feed on our insecurities to sell products. No matter what you are beautiful. Your story is incredible. Your message is something worth hearing. Be yourself because no one can do you.
5. Not Believing In Yourself.
Creating doubt out of no belief in your abilities is a sure confidence buster. You have to believe you can. Provide yourself patience and you will do whatever it is you want to do. Change comes with discomfort. See yourself as the person you want to be and that is the person you can become.
6. Multitasking Too Many Things.
In a society where we seem to be measured by what we do, versus who we are makes this tough. We have been conditioned to think we are measured by how much we can take on. However, take some tasks off your list. Focus and you will actually get more done. You will have more motivation because more will get accomplished. Productivity will increase because things will actually get done. The quality of the work you produce will be stronger. The best part is you will be relieved to focus on you more.
Ever noticed you get lost on Facebook, reading articles and watching the latest trending YouTube. You spend hours watching reruns of Gilmour Girls. Be mindful of how you use your time. Limited it if you have to. I do this. I use a calendar diligently and timers often. It keeps me focused and ensures I don't get lost in distractions. When time slips away it is easy to skip that workout you have been meaning to get too.
8. Not Being Patient Enough.
Giving things the time they need. Ever wonder why you can hit the gym and after 8 weeks you fall off? You are looking for results that still need time to happen. We need to have realistic expectations. The results that last, typically take time. Physiologically the body needs a good 12 weeks to heal, adapt and accommodate results. This is if you have been consistent and in return committed to the process. Therefore, before you hang up the runners. Ask yourself. Did you give it enough time? Have you given it the right commitment? Have you been consistent? If you feel you have, this is a perfect time to adapt your goals and speak to your support. You make just ready for the next chapter OR maybe you just need help with your current plan. Speak up and stay focused.
9. You Do Enough.
You work, you mom, you cook, you clean, you exercise. The list can go on forever. Each day just focus in and do what you can. The consistency of your efforts is what will keep you motivated, not how much you cram in a day. It's not about spending hours into the night to get everything in. It's about letting go of excuses. It's about being comfortable that you give each the best that you can. It's about getting rest.
The biggest motivational killer. The fear of failure, the fear of change and the fear of the unknown. Fear is just an illusion. It is a way we stop of ourselves from starting. Feeling fear and doing it anyways is how we learn. Let go of the "what if's". Put love into your day and the light will shine it's path for you. Feel free to run into arms of fear. What is the worse that could happen?
We hold all the choices to our happiness. If happiness is measured by the success of your goal. You have to choose to do it. You have to start the journey. You have to be open to the possibilities, open to the challenges and open to all the victories. With the good comes the bad. Life is about balance after all. However, the bad isn't meant to stop us but to teach us. To shine new light of our capabilities. Peel that onion loves. Step out of your way and let magic happen.