It's Not Them, It's YOU
You decided to take on a Personal Transformation. You have goals to change you body, feel better and live a healthier life. You feel so empowered you finally join the gym, contact the trainer you have been watching on Instagram. You book a consult with a nutritionist. You pull in the resources to get you started.
Than this happens....
I have sat with numerous clients over my many years in the industry who come in with excited energy to get started. They tell me they are tired of being tired. They want to feel better, look better and live different BUT, this is where it changes. The dreaded BUT. I want to lose weight BUT my Husband does all the cooking. I want to eat better BUT my Boyfriend eats so much junk. I want to meal prep BUT I am not the one in my home that does the cooking or the groceries. I try to bring healthy snacks BUT everyone at the office always brings donuts. I don't want to spend hours in the kitchen. I would do more cooking BUT my friends eat out a lot. The list can go on and on.
Always in these conversations I have to ask the hard questions.
1. Who are you doing this for?
2.How committed are you to taking charge of your life and feeling better?
3. Why does it matter how your Boyfriend or Friends eat?
4. Where do you fit into this?
5. What are you willing to do to make you happy?
When it comes to your own Personal Transformation it is on you. There is no way of sugar coating it. It's your goal, your life, your responsibility. You have to be ready to take accountability for yourself and stop pushing your responsibilities on to the ones your love and care about. The way we live our life is unique to our own needs. Therefore, if your Husband does the cooking but you want to clean up your nutrition. It is time to get in the kitchen. You will have to do some groceries shopping or tag along. If you want variety in your meals, you will have to meal prep and spend time in the kitchen. If your friends eat out a lot, you will have to prep your lunches or learn to say no. You will have to communicate for yourself. You will have to act as a personal advocate towards your own challenge. It is not them who is slowing you down. It is you. The sooner you do this for you and you alone. The more success you will see. The clearer and more confident you will be at directing this new lifestyle for yourself. The more empowered you will feel by creating your own happiness. Therefore, being happier in the relationship you do have. Asking for support is different than expecting your loved ones to take on the work for you. Relationship are not about fixing each others problems, it is about being there for them while they fix their own. It is about offering a shoulder to cry on when things get tough. It is about listening when you need to sound off. It is about encouraging you to get to the gym. So relieve yourself and those around you by taking on this because it's what you want. Keep it simple and do you, for you.